FREQUENTLY ASKED aNML QUESTIONS
1. What is aNML Parties about?
aNML Parties is a community for individuals and couples exploring or living A Non-Monogamous Lifestyle.
Our events create private, welcoming, consent-driven social environments where newcomers and experienced lifestyle members can connect, socialize, flirt, explore, and simply be themselves.
There is no required level of participation. Your experience is yours.
2. Who can attend?
We welcome respectful adults 21+, including couples and approved individual attendees, who value consent, communication, discretion, and mature social interaction.
Individual and couples ticket options may vary by event.
All attendees must be registered and approved through the event registration process.
Single Member Policy (Men & Women)
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To maintain a balanced, respectful, and enjoyable atmosphere, aNML Parties limits and vets individual attendees—both men and women.
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Individual men and women may be limited based on overall event attendance and are admitted by approval.
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Individual attendees can play an important role in the social and intimate dynamics of an event. Thoughtful screening helps create organic connections without allowing any one attendance category to overwhelm the environment.
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All individual attendees are expected to demonstrate maturity, consent awareness, communication skills, and appropriate social etiquette.
3. What are your core values?
Consent. Communication. Respect.
These three principles are at the heart of every aNML event.
Always ask before touching. Communicate clearly. Honor boundaries.
“No” and “No, thank you” require no explanation, pressure, or negotiation.
4. What is your policy on joining in play?
If play is already in progress, do not interrupt or assume you may join.
Only participate when you have been clearly and directly invited.
Watching does not equal an invitation. Being nearby does not equal an invitation. A colored wristband does not equal an invitation.
Unsolicited interference with another guest's experience is not tolerated and may result in removal from the event.
5. Do I need to be experienced?
Not at all.
We welcome every level of curiosity—from guests attending their first lifestyle event to longtime members of the community.
Come as you are.
Observe. Socialize. Ask questions. Explore if you choose. Move at your own pace.
6. What kinds of events do you host?
aNML Parties produces curated adults-only experiences ranging from social mixers and intimate gatherings to larger lifestyle events featuring music, social environments, dedicated adult spaces, kink exploration, education, and immersive experiences.
Each event develops its own personality while maintaining the same expectations surrounding consent, communication, respect, and discretion.
7. Are upgrades available?
Depending on the event, yes.
For Winter Escape, a limited number of private boudoir photography sessions are planned before the main event.
Sessions require separate booking and are not included with general admission.
Additional details and availability will be announced separately.
8. How do tickets and wristbands work?
Every guest receives an official event wristband at check-in. It confirms admission and must be worn throughout the event.
Guests may also choose to wear optional colored wristbands that help communicate their current interests or comfort level.
Colored wristbands begin conversations. They do not grant consent.
Consent must always be communicated directly, remains ongoing, and may be withdrawn at any time.
Guests may change their colored wristband during the event as their comfort level or interests change.
9. What do the colored wristbands mean?
Colored wristbands help guests communicate their current comfort level and interests at a glance.
🟢 Green — Open to play
🟡 Yellow — Proceed slowly; communicate clearly and ask first
🟣 Purple — Open to same-sex connections (solo or partnered)
⚪ White — Social only; not participating in play
🔴 Red — Not open to play at this time
⚫ Black — Open to kink exploration or kink-focused interaction
IMPORTANT: No wristband means “yes.”
They are communication tools—not invitations and never substitutes for verbal consent.
Always ask. Never assume.
10. Do I have to participate in anything?
Absolutely not.
Your admission provides access to the event. It does not create an obligation to participate sexually, romantically, socially, or within any particular experience.
Dance. Talk. Watch. Relax. Explore. Participate—or don't.
Your experience is yours.
11. Can I bring my own alcohol?
Outside alcohol and personal coolers are not permitted inside the venue.
Alcohol service is professionally managed on-site. Guests may bring reasonable amounts of their preferred non-alcoholic mixers.
Final Winter Escape bar details will be announced prior to the event.
12. What should I wear?
Whatever makes you feel confident and comfortable.
Guests may arrive in stylish casual attire, evening wear, or clothing inspired by the event theme. Some guests choose to change into lingerie or more sensual attire as the evening develops.
There is no designated dress-down time and no requirement to dress down.
For Winter Escape inspiration, think black, midnight blue, champagne, gold, silver, winter white, jewel tones, velvet, satin, metallic accents, and subtle sparkle.
Changing areas and limited cubby storage are available.
13. Can I leave and come back?
Yes.
Re-entry is permitted during the event as long as you retain and wear your official event wristband.
Your wristband must remain intact and visible for re-entry.
14. What happens if someone violates the rules?
Community safety and guest boundaries are taken seriously.
Anyone who violates consent, privacy, conduct, or event policies may be warned or removed from the event and may be prohibited from attending future aNML events.
Professional security is present to support guests and enforce event policies when necessary.
15. Can I get a refund if my plans change?
All ticket purchases are final and non-refundable.
In certain circumstances, approved ticket transfers may be permitted through aNML Parties.
Unauthorized ticket sales, transfers, or exchanges are not permitted.
Please refer to our Refund & Transfer Policy for complete details.
16. What if I feel different emotionally after the event?
After an exciting, highly social, intimate, or emotionally stimulating experience, some people experience a temporary change in mood or energy commonly referred to as Event Drop.
We've created a dedicated Event Drop resource covering the experience, aftercare considerations, community support, and additional reading.
Still have questions?
Reach out anytime.
We would much rather answer a question beforehand than have you arrive uncertain about something.
Show up. Communicate clearly. Respect boundaries. Move at your own pace.
Your experience is yours.
— Jerome & Nicole
aNML Parties