aNML Parties
FIRE & ICE Hotel TAKEOVER
Let’s start with the name: aNML stands for A Non-Monogamous Lifestyle
— and yes, that’s intentionally broad. We believe non-monogamy isn’t a one-size-fits-all experience. Whether you identify as a swinger, polyamorous, open, monogamish, or you’re still exploring what ethical non-monogamy means for you, you're welcome here. aNML is a space that embraces the full spectrum of connection, curiosity, and consensual play.
Our mission is to build a vibrant, sex-positive community in Charleston where people in the lifestyle can connect, celebrate, and feel safe being themselves. Whether you're new and curious, seasoned and adventurous, or somewhere in between, we’re creating events that feel exciting, inclusive, and drama-free.
aNML FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Your full attention please!
Welcome! We enjoy meeting first-time newcomers and those experienced aNMLs (Non-Monogamous Lifestylers)
During the the dance party or play portions of the night you might notice that some people ease into play quickly—that’s just part of the exciting, sexy energy of the night. But remember, there’s NO rush and NO pressure. Some people choose to simply watch and soak it all in, while others may feel ready to play. Wherever you land on that spectrum is perfect. Go at your own pace, do what feels right for you.
And most of all—enjoy the experience.
We’re so glad you’re here!
aNML THOUGHTS
FLOW
Go where the energy takes you. Let conversations, connections, and chemistry unfold naturally—don’t force it.
SPARK
Your vibe sets the tone. Confidence, kindness, and curiosity will always attract the right energy.
BALANCE
Respect your limits and honor others’. This lifestyle is about mutual enjoyment, not expectations.
HEAT
Bring your best self—sexy, playful, open-minded. The energy you put in fuels the night
Q & A
1. What is this group about?
We’re a community for individuals and couples exploring or living a non-monogamous lifestyle, including swinging. Our events create a safe, sexy, and social space for both newcomers and seasoned veterans to connect.
2. Who can join?
We welcome open-relationships of respectful LS couples and single adults (21+)—both male & female. IDs will be checked at every event.
3. What are your core values?
Consent, communication, and respect are the heartbeat of aNML. Always honor boundaries, ask before touching, and accept “no” without pressure or negotiation.
4. What is your policy on joining in play?
If play is already in motion, do not interrupt. Only join if you are clearly and directly invited. Unsolicited interruptions are not tolerated and may result in removal from the event.
5. Do I need to be experienced?
Not at all. We welcome every level of curiosity—from your very first event to long-time lifestyle veterans. Come as you are, and grow at your own pace.
6. What kinds of events or activities do you offer?
aNML events are designed to spark chemistry and push the limits of fun. From flirty mixers and poolside parties to full hotel takeovers, every experience is built to bring out your playful side.
7. How do I get started?
Grab your ticket right from the homepage by picking the option that fits your vibe. Want to dip a toe in? Go with the Swim ticket. Feeling adventurous? Upgrade on-site to a Black band for deeper access. Ready to immerse yourself completely? Choose the Stay ticket for the full takeover experience.
8. What happens if someone violates the rules?
We take community safety very seriously. Anyone violating our consent or etiquette policies will be warned, removed, or permanently banned.
Heavy security is always present to ensure safety for everyone.
9. What should I wear?
This event’s theme is 🔥 Fire & ❄️ Ice—so bring the heat or keep it cool. Think fiery reds, sequins, lingerie, or body paint… or icy silvers, metallics, whites, and glowing accessories. Couples can even pair up as a Fire & Ice duo --- be playful & fun.
Your starting outfit can be your dress-down outfit or maybe you want to match or mix up your dress-down vibe. It's up to you but above all wear what makes you feel confident, sexy, and ready to Play with others.